Welcome to the Big Book Sponsorship meeting of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA). This is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition-oriented fellowship based on the model pioneered by Alcoholics Anonymous. This is also an ‘Open’ meeting and welcomes anyone who wants to learn more about sex and love addiction. Please keep the focus on S.L.A.A. recovery. The only qualification for S.L.A.A. membership is a desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction. S.L.A.A. is supported entirely through contributions of its membership and is free to all who need it.
We meet every Wednesday evening at 7:00 P.M. Our primary purpose is to connect untreated sex and love addicts to recovered addicts who guide newcomers through a personalized one on one study of the Twelve Step program as described in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. We substitute terms and phrases related to alcoholism to include sex, love, lust, relationship and/or codependency addiction.
This a Big Book Sponsorship Meeting. We shall be interested to hear from those who are getting results from this book, particularly those who have commenced work with other addicts. We have no attitude of Holier Than Thou, nothing whatever except the sincere desire to be helpful. There are no fees to pay, no axes to grind, no people to please, no lectures to be endured – these are the conditions we have found most effective. We have ceased fighting anything or anyone, even sex, love, lust, relationship and codependency addiction. Love and tolerance of others is our code. We don’t talk down to an addict from any moral or spiritual hilltop; we simply lay out the kit of spiritual tools for your inspection and show others how they worked for us.
We offer friendship and fellowship. If you want to get well, we will do anything to help. To show other addicts precisely how we have recovered is the main purpose of the first 164 pages of the book, Alcoholics Anonymous. Sharing is kept to approximately two to three minutes. Cross talk is permitted, but only, as a response to personal experiences and answers as found in the text of the Big Book. Due to the open nature of this meeting, please be mindful about what you choose to share. Please restrain from using graphic details of your acting out description, instead focus on the nature of your feelings, thoughts, motives and actions.
Remember, studying the steps is not the same as taking the Steps. The Big Book says, “Here are the steps we took” NOT “here are the steps we read and talked about.” It’s been shown that action, not knowledge, produced the spiritual awakening that resulted in recovery from addiction.
If you have decided you want what we have and are willing to go to any length to recover, then you are ready to take certain steps. To work with someone who has recovered, someone who can show you ‘how it works’–‘that is ‘how to recover from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body’ – see me after the meeting and we will get you started.
Remember, we recover by the steps we take, not the meetings we make!